What's Good??

How strange! We keep complaining that life has not been good to us! Some one has not been good to us!
Some one said that we are not good! Do we know whats good!? In reality, we do not know whats good because there is nothing which is GOOD. It's just the way we feel about some thing which makes us come to the conclusion that it's good. When we come to conclusion, we forget to check out other options. Which means we are blinding ourselves with our ignorance. So, what every is in the life is just positive unless it makes you feel suffocated. So the right thing to say would be " This makes me suffocate" than "this is BAD"Guess then that most of the difficult things will become easy for us to live, accept and  enjoy. Yes, you will need to use your instinct to judge if you can really face the truth ...with a smile and do you have the courage to accept the truth from within!

What the fish!!???

Another major learning!! I have been having a few conversations with my friends..which opened the doors to more wisdom.

Observations: We tend to talk about people on their back..( Obviously not good things) , we tend to get defensive when we know that some one is back biting us..

Inferences: We back bite when we get in secured on what we have, when we don't enjoy the success of others the way we do our own success, we don't know what to do, when we find some one vulnerable. We only say we respect but donno how to spell it

We get defensive because we are afraid every one knows our secrets. Some where in the bottom of the heart we know we can do better but we are lazy and always make excuses. We like to be respected though we dont respect others. We are not happy with what we have We want more


Prescription : All the ones who get defensive.wake up know your self better
The ones who talk behind the back.You need help ask for it!Nothng wrong in saying that you need help!

PS : If you are too pricy to accept..May your soul rest in peace

Who Am I?

I wake up with dreams and nightmares
I dress up to hear from some one
I am worried what would my neighbours say
I am unhappy to hear different about  myself
I think on what people think abt me and why they think so
I think why I am so and why notso
I tell myself dat I am bad and not
I correct myself for the language I speak
I compare myself toy colleagues, friends and others
I see  how the others suffer
I can't help but I tell myself that I have a reason
I prefer to be spoken well about
I get scared that people don't like me
I like to be an enigma and still want the people to be interested in me
I know and I don't know what I want
I fear disrespect from other
I die to be different
I love being pampered but cant pamper others
I search for my soul mate
I loathe myself and lookup to others
I am weak and strong
I am fat and thin
I feel eyes around me
I hear lips whispering
How strange there's so much with in me and still the world goes on
Who am I?
After all a human being?

Worry

Off late based on my interactions, I have noticed that.there are so many things which keep happening in our daily life . Some within our control some out of our control. Irrespective of that, we are being controlled by them. We want to wake up in comfort, we want to get dressed well, we want to look good, we want to be surrounded by people, etc etc. Its so strange even if one of the elements miss we go into a kind of depression. We tend to shout at the ones who gave us the pain. We tend to remain to our selves, We avoid those we don't like. What we don't notice is that we are all in the illusion of control. Some one wouldn't change because you abused him. Some one wouldn't talk good about you because you don't like to be back bitten. Some one wouldn't respect you because you want it. These all have to happen involuntarily and naturally, just the way you breathe. Yet, if that would have been so easy life would have been so different. At least, we can avoid unnecessary thoughts by realizing the fact that true happiness doesn't lie in the untrue expectations from others when we ourselves are not. But then the question is Do we know what we are? The other questions which come along are: Can we accept our mistakes than blame others? Can we apologize when necessary? Do we respect others? Many more questions which always remain unanswered because we are scared of ourselves.

Reality

The journey of going within one selves never ends.
A few thoughts: There is one person who I know keeps to herself. Her loneliness, her happiness, her sad ness, her celebrations, her hunger, her thirst, her wants, her needs every thing. I am hardly aware if there is some thing else is her life than I know. Given the fact that I don't know much it is very unusual that we find people who are to themselves. Completely. Some one who cant share..who don't want to share..What ever the reason is.they are lonely.

Life is so strange and unfair to us. One need not be like the one I just expressed about.If we carefully notice our life, though we have so many things which keep us occupied in our life such as family, friends, job, joy, pleasure, the inevitable truth of life is that we are to ourselves. We are born alone and we die alone. How strange?

I watched this movie " The Fever" The speaker says " We know that we can give money we earn to some one else who needs it. Yet, we don't. Not that we cant live if we share. We don't want to. Why?

This is the point of introspection. We need to understand the real reason behind what we do . Some times perhaps we have reasons beyond what we can imagine. But they could be real. For the reality is that we don't want to accept and agree. Because we are all very comfortable with the way we lead life. On our own comfortable beds, our dates, our own salary based accounts, we get food to eat, clothes to wear. Is that the reality? We, I guess, fail to understand that what appears to be is not true. It's just an illusion of existence. What we like, what we want, what we feel. The reality could change. Then we change. and to the utter sadness, we are even losing the instinct to notice change and to live life in a healthy and admirable fashion. We are just not real and true to ourselves.

There can be pages and pages of such instances which can be quoted which we agree or not are truth. Yet, we like to rest on the clouds of such dreams. One day, when the cloud rains, we are dumped to the reality. We don't know where we land.

Notice

Being expressive becomes addictive I guess. I am now a days very excited on expressing what I noticed and learnt that day. My hope that some one is following my blog hasn't faded away yet. I have been waiting for the entire day for this moment to write.

We like ourselves because we know ourselves but we don’t like the others because we don’t know them. 

If we carefully notice …a few things.we like to sit in the theatre watch the crap for 3 hours and be like the ones in the movie because we like the environment. We get the freedom of watching it the way we want. We can imagine the way we want . We give 100% attention, life , heart every thing possible into it. But if we had to learn some thing at work or at school we don’t because things don’t go the way we want them to be. We have no control or less control. But in reality it isn’t possible. If you are living a life where both of them fuse i.e  you watch a movie and then you like the characters in it and you want your life to be  that way as in the movie, live in that illusion for some time and then not able to balance the both of them, it means that there is some thing which eats your happiness in your life. 

So is it with any thing in life. We like to do a lot of things but the true happiness  is some thing we dot know yet. cause we live in a world of conditions where we live in a illusion. We just think we know every thing,but we don't know that we are ignorant

Lessons

Lesson from IceAge 2
" So..ellie thinks that she is a possum not a mammoth until she meets Manny. It takes time for her to realise that she is mammoth until manny tells her that she is similar to him and she is not small"

How very well was it portrayed that we don't know the strength we have within ourselves due to the company we have been living in since the birth. Well, It is true that we tend to form a habit because of the way we were raised, the people we grew up with and the impressions we had. This doesn't make any one less than positive. These experiences come by default as a part of the package. If we want to enjoy more luxuries, we need to subscribe for them by making more efforts of learning and being and more self awareness.



A few conversations with one of my friends told me that I have been under estimating my own power for quite some time now. May be I am not really as powerful as I think I am now, but the thought of being weaker makes it all the more.. weaker. Whatever is is.it's a thought where did it originate!? Only I know the answer so would you..If there is anything which has made you feel the way you feel now..and what you feel now makes you suffocate then.you need to re look at it from the bird's view. It will help you notice and learn many things which you wouldn't have ever thought of. about yourself.