Reality Check

A few things in our life. We get stranded so much by our ambitions and what we want to do in our life that we lose the inner selves. This happens with life after life...and we get caught in the horse hair threads and end up in the search of ourselves. We focus on every inch of step we take to reach the perfection in what we want to which leaves a void space in our soul...then we realize  that we got our heels hooked to our head and we want to run. The moment when we gaze into the reality and face it with a smile tells us how much we know ourselves. The challenge is to keep all our hallucinations apart, our egos behind and watch what our mind says...thats what a soldier would do .

Modern!?

" The Only way out is within " is a lovely book by Rohini Sharma. She reiterates the point , earlier stated by a few gurus of Yoga that do not be curt to your emotions. Just let the thoughts flow. Be freind your thoughts and the mind will be your friend. How beautiful!? This is a beautiful manifestation of the human soul. This comes with a disclaimer. The gold cannot be moulded into an ornament until it passes through fires. Perhaps, that's why humans have discovered the various hymns which help us relieve the thoughts. If you notice, we cannot talk and think at the same time. So chanting helps us to be relieved of the stress while being able to control your thoughts. How Modern?

And given a chance human mind tends to go those incidents which makes them regret. Just like the water which always flows to the low. The use of such techniques of chants and praises of the almighty are merely tools to be able to empower ourselves.They are not the destination by themselves. The way out here when we are overwhelmed with negative thoughts : We can experience that, what we are going through is not pleasant. So, we need to realise that, we are just falling prey to various emotions which bind us to the never ending cycles of emotions. We need to look at the situation from the helicopter view then every thing looks small and soon we will realise its not worth happiness.

All said and done. Being there is not easy.

Why is it Hard to Forgive!?

Its's quite easy to read and hear people say " forgive but never forget"  It's very tough though. What is forgiving!? An ability to forget what happened through the means of understanding what the guilty has been through!? If we keep thinking about some one else, who will think  of us and what we have been through? That leaves us with two options: Don't care for what the others did or forgive them out of love My Thoughts on them:

Not Caring for the others : Is it possible to ignore people when you see them every day and when the memories are linked to them in some or the other manner? To be able to do that, you will need to be made of rock where you live only for some purpose such as money, job and live a hypocritical life.Thats mediocre?

Being able to forgive some one out of love: What's love? Its a universal feeling of being able to understand and respect some one for what they are( Its not love if u r able to give time to know the other person< its not love) . So when you are not able to love some one from the heart, you are only compromising with your own values and saying that you were forgiving him/her. That's hypocricy/ just a stunt to take care of practical things. What ever the reason may be, it's just not true. So why live false? Live with pride and don't lie. I am not encouraging grudges against each other

Yes, experience taught me. Respect once lost is lost.

Silsile

On the way back from work, there is this place where most of the vendors selling chai set up their stalls. People of all types come there to sip the chai and relieve their every day stress. The ones setting up the stalls include men who make money for their family, old couple who try to live their last days with food three times a day, kids who study in the morning. Yet, the most wonderful thing I have noticed is that they do not worry about what the other person is earning. They think and live for that day, earn for their lives. No greed, no jealousy, no insecurity. So unlike corporate ( no offence intended ) The point I am trying to make is, we are so bound to the luxuries and pleasure although we live a life of comfort that we find every thing less. On the other hand, we find people who manage things better than us, who are better at sales than us..it's their life. eg Dabbawalas. The irony is that I am not sure if I can implement the moral  I learnt. We only crave for more more and more. whilst the real happiness is in giving in the best for that minute.

The Best Actor

Although all of us do not agree, the following is worth a thought. On a typical day, we act innumerous times. Whether it is to say " please" to some one, whether it is to hangout with some one. We just pretend to be happy. When some one says "Are you hurt ?" after belittling us ' No! It is okay!", After some one ignores us and say " Sorry if I hurt you !" It's alright" Are you making the best decision?" "Ofcourse I am!" Deep down within the heart, we know that what we say is not what we mean all the times. That's just because, we are not free yet. We just think we like the life we lead but we know if we do or we do not. There is a conformation somewhere or the other. An anchor holds our life to unknown things which we fear to face, Fear of being discriminated, fear of not earning enough, fear of dying alone, fear of being powerless. But as the time passes by we realise that fears are small.What we do not notice are the new inhibitions we developed. Where is the end to it.!?

Perhaps, in smiling heart-fully, in doing small things which we like, or in not speaking lies, or in realizing that nothing is the end of the world. Its too complicated to be simplified. Life is just abstract already.  

What's the solution?